Let it Go or Try Again?
Good Day Ladies and Gents,
We're now already a quarter through the year, which is pretty wild to me, but I hope that you've been making the most of it. Now that the days of uncomfortable cold and ashy hands should be behind us, we can go about things with an even more upbeat attitude and optimism! Speaking of optimism, we're all well aware that this is an essential mindset to have in relationships, but when does it become irrelevant? What I'm getting at is...when does a situation get to the point of no return and make a glass half full instantly feel like sewer water? Well, that probably depends on the particular case, but there's gotta be some universal things we'd all say "nah" to. So when do you know to let it all go or give it one more shot?
I think it's safe to say that for the most part relationships, whether they be romantic or friendly, start off on an absolute high note. We always go into them with the best of moods and greatest of feelings for the other person. They can honestly do little to no wrong in our books and may just be the greatest human beings we've set eyes on. Like, how could someone be this great?! Yea, that lasts until the first sign of disagreement or debate. Then things go from this person being perfection on earth to...eh they have their moments. For the most part though, everything is still lovely and there's little to worry about. However, once these small incidents begin building up over the months/years, that can lead to doubts growing in the mind. The fun fact of the day is that this is all quite normal.
Yes, we all have heard time and time again that relationships are hard and take constant work/effort to maintain. But I still feel like a good amount of us go into a bond with someone praying for minimal drama and headaches, and that's just not realistic. If you find yourself in a "perfect relationship", you need to just leave it now, because you're bound to screw it up eventually. If you already know you're not going to be willing to work through the potentially tough times with a specific person, save both of your time and don't agree to being together. Anyone can "vibe" with an individual for a few weeks or so, but what you need to decide before even jumping into something new is if you're gonna deem them worth navigating this thing called life with. And then there's the flip side, which is knowing when to drop em...
So I told a little story in a recent post about how one woman almost had me applying to Savage University when she wanted to play me and see someone behind my back. Now, there are several angels out in this world with the room in their hearts to forgive and forget such trifling acts, but I'll let you know right now that I'm not one of them. The current theme of my life is "God workin' on me" and so while I may one day be able to take back a cheater, that day isn't today. With that said, this is clearly a personal example of mine where I'd just have to let it go, but you have to know yourself. I know that even if I told someone I forgive them for cheating on me, I wouldn't act like it. They probably wouldn't even be able to go to the grocery store without me having my fair share of questions consisting of "Who's milk? Where you know him from?" or "How long you known eggs for? Y'all dated?" and that just wouldn't be a healthy way to go. For others, cheating may be a forgivable offense, but then they're not able to stay with someone that smokes all the time, you know. Deal breakers really just depend on who you're talking to.
While I'm still in a sharing mood, I also have an example of where I tried again. So while this may not be any surprise to those that know me well, I can have a slick mouth at times :) . With my Master of Sarcasm degree, I can sometimes get under folk's skin and cause unnecessary friction. I can recall one time specifically where my smart mouth got me in the hot seat with a young lady and she was ready to let it go. In this case I had two options: I could humble myself and get my act together or I could keep being cute and look foolish when I got dropped. Well as surprising as it may seem, I chose to apologize and get my life right because I actually really liked the gal at the time. Although we're no longer seeing each other, that decision on my part did spot us another few months, so hey! One can say it was worth it. And more importantly, I learned that day that it takes a bigger man to check himself and apologize than to stay in his ways out of pride.
We all have our specific things we accept as well as breaking points, and this is what makes us unique. While my examples of letting it go and trying again are directed at Jordan, others may have completely different factors they look at when deciding to stay or leave a relationship. With that said, I'd like to know what your deal breakers have been as well as what you've gone through yet chose to fight for. Share your experiences either in the comments below or at pitts16@gmail.comand don't forget to make good decisions! God bless.