Bro, She Don't Want You.

Greetings Ladies and Gents,

Hope you're finding good ways to stay cool and comfortable despite these overly hot/humid weeks we've been experiencing. It's not like I needed another reason to stay my butt inside, but that feeling of a sweaty back the moment I step out my door is something I'll happily pass on. Anyway, for today's topic I felt that I'd touch on something everyone should be aware of, especially the more ya'll decide to rebel against quarantine recommendations. While this post may be more so dedicated to the fellas, I'm confident that it will be more than relatable for anyone that reads. Let's get to it!

As more and more folks get stir crazy in their homes due to the pandemic, we will inevitably see a spike in the amount of people at public gatherings. With that will also come guys seeing several different ladies potentially for the first time in months. Now it's already known just how thirsty guys can be in general...getting up in women's faces, telling them how good they look 78 more times than necessary, thinking buying them a drink equates to being their boyfriend. Just imagine the foolery these dudes are going to be on after having limited access to seeing the opposite sex for so long.

We know that the DMs (direct messages) thirst is just as, if not more, potent as the in person variety. So even if you ladies are continuing to social distance and not go to social events, a number of you are still getting bombarded with compliments and some version of hey/hi/wasup/yo in your social media inboxes. I know that madness right there has to feel like a whole other pandemic in itself...the Thirst Pandemic. But never fear, because I'm about to give the guys a few helpful hints and tips on how to conduct themselves right now.

Fellas, I'm not going to drag this out. There's clearly a fine line between showing perseverance and being pressed. While many women do in fact appreciate a man that asserts himself and makes known his intentions, you also have to possess enough common sense to realize if she's just not interested. Replying to a picture she adds on her social media story with a compliment is fine, and if she responds to it even better. But don't go messaging her daily with some "hey beautiful" "hey gorgeous" "hey just making sure you got my last 8 messages because my phone has been acting funny" type nonsense. First off, you look all kinds of desperate. Secondly, if she had any type of interest in you, she would at least respond to you. It doesn't take you reminding her about that last weeks worth of messages you've sent, because I guarantee she saw the first one. Even you know she saw the first one, because your app tells you it was "Read." 

There are some simple yet effective ways to potentially get the right kind of attention from someone you're trying to pursue. For example, if you see that the girl you're crushing on has posted in her social media stories about a movie she just watched, maybe respond with your thoughts on the film. If you haven't seen it yet, go watch it and then circle back around to sending her your opinions on it. Another idea is if she post about a book she just read and enjoyed, you could take the time to read the same book and ask if she's open to discuss it. Those are small options of course, but they could be quite effective if presented in the right manner. Obviously there's no guarantee you'll get a response, but I'd like your chances more and it's respectable. 

I've heard plenty of bad examples of how guys decide to initiate DM convos as well, unfortunately. If you see a woman posting her workouts on her page, please don't take it upon yourself to say that "your form could be better" "you're not doing enough reps" or "let me show you how it's done." My guy, you're full of it and 10 out of 10 times this will get you ignored or blocked. Why would you ever think this is a logical way to get a young lady to be intrigued by you? You sound arrogant, like a know it all and you're being disrespectful all at the same exact time. Yet you thought this was going to be your way into her life. Sir. Pray on it, take a nap and be better. 

I feel like I could go on and on about the ways we as men could handle these interactions better, and because of that I may have to just do a part 2 for this post. But I'll end by saying be respectful, pay attention to details and don't force what isn't there. Ya'll should STILL be socially distanced out in public, so being up in women's faces doesn't even need to be an option for multiple reasons. However for the ones that don't quite get it, keep your distance. I'm counting on you guys to be gents out here. You only get one first impression.