Bro, She's Interested. Now What?

 Greetings Ladies and Gents,

I hope you're all enjoying your weekends and staying safe. It has been quite a lovely Sunday afternoon over in my neck of the woods with plenty of sun and cool breezes. 

With the amount of pain, stress and loss that 2020 has already given us with 4 more months to go, it has at times caused me to not be as motivated to write like I'm used to doing. I've found myself wanting to just lay down or take a nap to get away from all of the bad news...because it can be overwhelming. However after prayer and taking some time to myself, I get my energy back and realize there are those that I'm actually able to provide some joy/escape to through my blog. With that said, I plan to keep the articles coming and pushing ahead, because that's what true leaders and heroes like our Black Panther or Black Mamba would do. So let's get back to it!

If you recall, last time we spoke on how it is crucial for guys to understand when a woman simply isn't interested in them and being mature enough to keep it moving. Now that I've covered that potential scenario, I think it's only right that we touch upon the other possible outcome. Let's say that you've reached out to a young lady via DMs and she's actually intrigued by what you're sending her way. Bet you weren't expecting that pleasant surprise, but now what? One can't just drop the ball and fumble a great opportunity that has presented itself all because there was no preparation. Earning the attention is a solid first step, so congratulations, but now the real work begins. 

Gents, the first thing I'd recommend you do in this situation is very simple. Remember what got you here. Let's say she goes ahead and gives you the digits. Well you're not going to want the first text you send her to be something out of left field like "hey sexy." No, y'all aren't at that level, man. Send a simple hey...followed by her name, and then let her know who it is.  If you decided to respond to a movie she was watching/critiquing via her social media story, then follow right back up with that. If she's reading several books and you asked about book recommendations, continue down that path and have meaningful dialogue. Keep the conversation going and let it be made known through those actions that you're serious about picking her brain and learning more about the person. The extra bells and whistles come over time, but paying attention to the details of who you're interested in is what has long lasting impact.

Second, if she follows up your remarks with questions of her own regarding what your interests are, take full advantage of the moment! The kind woman literally just gave you the best assist in telling all about yourself whether it be hobbies, beliefs, goals, etc. so it can't be taken lightly. The information you choose to provide her with is what's going to potentially separate you from the rest of the pack. I know you weren't silly enough to believe that you were the only guy that found her attractive enough to shoot your shot, right? With that in mind, it's vital that if you've taken up this much of her time...it better not all go to waste. Make it count. No one is saying to exaggerate the truth here, because you obviously need to be yourself. That's who you'd want to be anyway, because if the person you're interested in is not feeling the real you, then that's a clear as day sign that they're not worth your time either. 

Lastly, I'll say to make sure that you don't go switching things up over time. If it's one thing a young lady can appreciate, it's quality consistency from the guy she's dealing with. That really goes for everyone though. If a person is respectful and engaging one day but then a few days later is acting brand new and different, chances are that you're not going to keep them around as long as they thought they'd be around. You're not going to be perfect because no one is, but one thing that everyone is capable of doing on a daily basis is trying their best, being honest and respectful. If you can commit to adding these simple things to your everyday walk, you'd be surprised what positive things may come out of it. 

I hope that these tips have been helpful and that you'll be able to put them to good use the next time a lady decides to give you a shot, gents. I'm leaning toward having my next post focus on the ladies and how they can know whether or not a guy is feeling them. Feel free to reach out to me though if you have any interesting ideas you'd like to see me cover on here. Until then, be safe and blessed!