The Birth of a Savage
Greetings Ladies and Gents,
I hope you are all doing well and in positive spirits. Well it's fair to say that nothing has changed in regards to how incredibly fast 2017 has decided to move in and out of our lives. Fall is literally a few days from now, and yea, I'd be lying to you if I said I wasn't ecstatic about that. Not only is it the best season of all time, but it's also an opportunity to experience change. We see the leaves start falling in preparation to eventually start back fresh once spring rolls around. But in order to get to that point, leaves must first fall. That brings me to today's lovely topic, the birth of a savage. Now this may seem like a subject that is going to strictly have a negative tone. Stick with me though; I'm going somewhere with this!
Let's get straight to it. We all have come across our share of savages in our lives. Whether they be short, tall, slim, thick, male, female...they've all graduated from SVU(Savage University). There's no limits on what this person can look like or sound like, and that's what makes them such an interesting case. But before we go judging them, let's keep in mind that they did not all start off enrolled in courses of savagery. Nope, there's a beginning to every one of their lifestyles, or "birth" as I like to say.
From what I've learned, witnessed and even experienced over the years...savagery seems to come from a place of hurt and/or pain. People don't tend to wake up one day when they're 5 years old and decide that they're going to do everyone dirty that they form a relationship with. In fact, a lot of savage students that you'll come across were once full of love and happiness. They were trusting, loyal and willing to open themselves up to those around them the most. For many, this can be a very difficult thing to do, especially if they're reserved and private about their world. So when someone(usually a veteran in the savage life) comes around and takes advantage of their vulnerability, it can often times have lasting effects.
Many times, the person played by the savage will feel completely betrayed and take it upon themselves to give the same type of treatment to everyone they come across in the future. As a result, this hurt soul will end up looking like a full blown savage to the people they take their pain out on. If we take note of this continuing cycle though, it's safe to assume that the original savage in this scenario was birthed from a place of pain as well.
I'm not going to give away any spoilers from Insecure, but I just caught up on the series, and it definitely has similar themes of hurt breeding hurt. It's an unfortunate reality for countless people that want to do right by others, but then their feelings of betrayal and distrust tend to become overbearing. But this doesn't have to be the end result. There are legit ways to get past what a savage did to you and keep being great. Bringing pain to someone else's life shouldn't be a permanent personality trait. Just like fall leads to the changing of the leaves, it can also lead to the changing of unhealthy lifestyles.
What are some experiences you've had with savage significant others? How did you choose to handle the situation(s)? Any advice on how to manage navigating your emotions when dealing with the foolery? Feel free to email me (pitts16@gmail.com) with any feedback and it can be incorporated into the upcoming posts. Stay tuned!