Stay Away From the Spooky!

Greetings Ladies and Gents,

I pray things are positive on your side of town and your health is in a good place. While the summertime tried to pretend like it was still around over the past week hitting 80+ degrees, it's safe to say we'll officially be settling into fall as it's about to get consistently chilly. As I'm writing this, Halloween is only a couple of days away and we're concluding a weekend where many of you attended parties with the theme of that holiday. It's one thing to come across some creepy looking characters at this kind of social gathering, but it's a whole other thing when you're engaging with them on a regular basis.

In a society where so many folks just want to feel loved, desired, or simply appreciated, we see a lot more settling into less than ideal places than we should. Have you ever found yourself conversing with a person for months just for it to blow up with y'all having a big fallout out of nowhere? I think the majority of us can relate to this type of scenario in some shape or form. The crazy thing about it is that many times we could probably predict that this unexpected behavior from the individual should have been more expected. There may have been signs over the prior days and weeks that made it clear this may be someone with spooky tendencies.

Now when I say spooky tendencies, I'm referring to things like instantly getting super offended, going from 0-100 in the blink of an eye, or literally being disrespectful in what they say to you. It comes in many forms and isn't limited to a particular personality or zodiac sign, trust me. Where we tend to drop the ball is when we literally act like that was a one off, they're just having a bad day, or they haven't had their coffee yet. While we all have our share of less favorable days in our lives, that should not stop you from using your common sense and awareness skills to realize when it's time to remove yourself from a bad space.

Let's be clear though, this is completely different from ghosting someone, no spooky puns intended. Ghosting can occur when you just up and disappear on someone when they've done nothing to make you randomly disappear on them. When someone is a spooky spirit though, you're more than welcomed to get up out of there and fast. It's not going to benefit you to keep overlooking all the clear signs they're giving you and fighting the good fight. You're going to lose. Don't let loneliness, longing for a partner, or simple lack of overall awareness be the reason you get caught up in the rapture of someone's spooky spell. I promise there are better things to do with your time, well-being, and mental health.

So as you all reminisce on how fun those Halloween shindigs were this weekend or prepare to take your kids around the neighborhood to figure out which candies are safe to eat, I implore you to remember the lessons on spookiness we've covered today. It's not fun seeing people you care about in situations you know they could be avoiding, but they're choosing not to. While I do not know everyone that will be reading this post, I still want you to be safe out here and live as peaceful of a life as possible. The day to day is hard enough out here. Let's not sprinkle any unnecessary spooky into the equation if we surely don't need to.