Respectfully...

Greetings Ladies and Gents,

I hope that you're having a wonderful start to your 2023 and remaining healthy as possible. I know I know...it's been forever and a day since you've heard from me through here. I could think up a thousand reasons to share as to why I've been missing for so long, but that doesn't matter much in this moment. We're back! I'm ready to buckle down, engage with you all, and have some genuine discussions about what's been on my mind and what's on your minds too. With that said, I think it's only right that we jump right back in like we never left.

Since we're already in February and Valentine's Day is right around the corner, it only seems right that I begin my return discussing matters of the heart. Year in and year out, we know that this season brings a lovey dovey type of energy to many people, whether they want to accept it or not. Reflective thoughts regarding who they're currently dating or who they would like to see themselves dating creep up in the mind and stay there for a good while. But what I would like for us to do as a collective this time around is to truly consider who's in fact deserving of your time and energy, because I'm here to tell you that the majority are not.

We've all had a run of nice chemistry and exchanges with people who have crossed our paths. It's been a fun little ride while it last. However, I'm also sure that I'm not the only one who has experienced this type of situation go left before you had an opportunity to even embrace it. One week, a person can be all about you, and the next week you're trying to figure out if they misplaced your number. It literally happens just that fast. You may be wondering why that is...and why in the world does it happen so often?! Well, let's just say that I have my theories.

For one, if anyone switches up on you that quickly, don't automatically assume it was something you did or said. One of the unfortunate discoveries I've made about my generation is they often lack the valuable ability to properly communicate. Some are so scared of conflict or uncomfortable conversations that they would rather ghost you instead of taking the time as an adult to express their feelings and work a misunderstanding out together. Others are so caught up in their own mess of a world that they genuinely don't even know how to keep up with whatever it is they may have had going on with you and don't take the time to voice it.

Either way, these people are being disrespectful of your time, energy, feelings, you name it. Let's just call it what it is. Y'all should know by now that I'm not here to sugarcoat in my blog space. I'm here to share experiences that I've had which I'm sure a good amount of readers can relate to as well. I may not have all the answers, but I sure know what being rude and childish looks like. When these individuals pick and choose how they want to pop in and out your life, you need to start respectfully letting them know how you feel about it. It's unacceptable. At that point, their feelings don't need to be saved because ultimately they could care less about yours. You'll never know the next time they realize they have your number, so it's important that you let them know where you stand when you have their attention.

Respectfully, your time and efforts could be spent doing way better things than wondering when you'll hear from these Caspers again. Do yourself a favor and do a hard reset on who is getting focus from you. Don't be a victim of the moment just because Valentine's Day is around the corner and you're feeling vulnerable. Save all that for the folks that don't know any better, because as of today you know better! Respectfully, put full concentration on loving how amazing you are and not waiting indefinitely for someone else to cosign it. When they go ghost, take that as a sign that they were meant to disappear.